One of the toughest lessons I have learned since becoming a mother is how to let criticism of my parenting style roll off my back. Everyone parents differently, and every child is different. Just because a friend or family member did it differently to you does not mean you’re doing anything wrong. In fact, if you have a happy, healthy kid, then you deserve one of those “World’s Best Mom” coffee mugs.
Since people became aware that you were pregnant, the influx of sometimes welcome, but oftentimes not, advice started to roll in about a huge amount of topics: breastfeeding vs formula, sleep training vs no cry, natural birth vs medicated vs c-section, when to move your baby to their crib, what foods to start with when beginning solids, etc. When this advise came from a fellow mother, I always assumed they were just trying to be helpful to prepare me as best they could. After all, I was a newbie at all things baby, so I’m sure they figured I could use some advise from their experience. When this advise came from a person who wasn’t a mother, I tried to assume that maybe they read this somewhere and just wanted to pass on that little nugget of information to help a girl out.
However, once I started to get rolling with the whole “I have a baby” thing, and people just did not approve of the way I do things, that’s when it became a tad more difficult. I always knew motherhood would present me with many chances to better myself, but I didn’t know some of the trials would be coming from people not involving my son, husband, or myself. I had to learn to be more forgiving and less sharp tongued when presented with a person quick to criticize my parenting methods.
I know I’m not a perfect parent. In fact, I’m pretty sure there’s no such thing. You do what you have to do to make sure your child is happy, healthy, and ready to take on the world. If you worry about if you’re a good enough parent, you are, imperfections and all.